When Your Family Disappears After a Death

Grieving the people who are still alive.

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When my dad died, I was prepared for heartbreak.

But I wasn’t prepared for the betrayal that followed.

No one warned me that grief doesn’t always come from the person you lost.

Sometimes it comes from the people who were supposed to hold you through it—and didn’t.

Sometimes, after the funeral:

• Your family disappears

• Or they fight you over the will and the family home

• Or they call you crazy for knowing your parent died from the Covid vaccines

• Or they rewrite the past, gaslight and invalidate your pain, and say:

- “there you go again”

- “you’re always the problem”

- “what’s wrong with you?”

- “you’re too much”

- “why are you being so difficult?”

• Or after they’ve done and said other hurtful things, they claim you’re the one abusing them. Right.

Sound familiar?

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